Love or Lust?
It is confusing
In the early stages of a relationship, it is difficult to find whether it’s love or just a
physical attraction. Both the feelings are different like a bliss, wonderful and joyous.

Make sure you know the difference between the two.

Love vs. lust

Think of lust as the kindling that starts the fire. A relationship built on lust burns fast anddies easily.

Love is like the larger of pieces of wood; it burns longer and steadier.Lust is the spark that could either gradually end, or burn into love. Lust is a feeling that
is quick and is temporary, while love comes slowly, but stay for long and permanently.
Love is an intense feeling of affection toward another person.

Two individuals will step a level from lust to love, when they get to see the whole individual and get past the “fantasy level.

If you do not understand your feelings, just use these signs to understand your mind better.

#1 Everything you do in a relationship, all sweet and romantic things, has a motive that will lead to the bedroom. The whole relationship just revolves around sex. The primary motive for being with that person is to have sex. True love is different. People in love value moments and experiences even if they are not liking it.

#2 Physical attraction is the most important, just looking good is paramount. You dress to the nines, you try really hard to keep in shape and always move out of the house like you jumped out of a centerfold. Lust ask for looking the best to remain attractive to the other person. While, Love doesn’t care if you go wearing out an old shirt or pyjamas. It is the inside heart that really matters.

#3 You look past their foolishness, when you’re in lust. You easily let go the issues that may turn into larger issues down the road. Love points out the mistakes. You love them, that is the reason you want them to be a better person. And if they love you, they’ll accept the criticism and try to be a better person.

#4 When you’re in lust, you say what they want to hear. You try to always please them and be at the safe side always. In love, you keep it real. You clearly say out what you do not like. In every relationship both partners have different views and opinions, that does not mean you are not a good match. You’re different people. And that’s okay. Have a healthy discussion and it will help to see situation from another perspective.

#5 You have an extra ticket to an awesome sold out concert, and he is the first person you think to take along then it’s love. If you think of him after the show when you’re sweaty, and want a quickie, it’s lust. You don’t get to have real bonding moments where you can know who they are.

#6 A couple in lust, do not really know each other. You maybe knowing their favourite color or food, but there is a lot more than these. The list is long. And in Love, you know small insignificant details. You know the whole story behind their favorite things. You know why they love it. These small, seemingly insignificant details are part of their identity. And you know all these little, because you are in love with him.

#7 If you go out in public, at public places, restaurants, cafe on regular basis, it’s love. If you prefer to spend the majority of your time with him in bed, it’s lust. When you desire only that one person, you know you are in deep romantic love. If you love him you will want to spend quality time together other than sex.

#8 If you avoid anything related to his family function you do not love him, it is just a lust. If you’re willing to go to every one of his families birthday parties just because he asked you to, it’s love.

#9 You focus more on the outside than inside. If you are stunned to see his every look, if you judge him from head to toe for how he looks and you wonder if you will be walking beside him how sexy it would be. If you think of tapping with him at the end of the night, it is definitely that one thing: Lust.

#10 You live in a fairy tale world where the other person is flawless. Being in lust dulls your judgment. A more stable relationship requires you to completely be into the person, so that the other person can know who you truly are—be it good or bad.

If you’re in lust, you tend to put up the bad side of the person whom your partner idealizes. You ignore the person’s negative characteristics and focus only on the qualities that fit your fantasy.

#11 You bumped into one another with a kiss and did not have a “friendship” stage. Most people in romantic relationships start out as friends. If you skipped the friendship period and brought it bed, you could be just in lust. To have a deeper relationship, getting into friendship is important, as it tests your compatibility, allows you to get to know each other.This type of relationship becomes the foundation of romantic love.
Love is a beautiful relation. Do not spoil it. Enjoy the roller coaster ride of self-discovery relating with someone for whom you lust. It will transform into love, if the chemistry is right. All the relationship to unfold naturally. Do not rush it. The more you bring love, passion and romance, the easier it will be to attract someone who shares those same qualities.